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What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

13.06.2025 00:10

What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.

General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:

Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.

Have you ever accidentally seen your mother-in-law doing something that was private to her?

Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.

These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.

Off the top of my ancient head:

Why do guys look up TikTok girls instead of porn? My boyfriend of two years, looks up big boobs on TikTok. He has never once cheated on me, not on social media or IRL. He claims it’s to “get off real quick if I’m not home.”

Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”

Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.

Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.

‘We’re right at the epicenter’ - Meduza

Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.

Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.

Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.

What are some photos of female sexual organs?

Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.